Writing Sympathy"THANK YOU" cards after a funeral:
While it may be difficult to write out thank you cards at a time of grief, it is important to acknowledge acts of kindness and support.
Who Should Receive a Sympathy "THANK YOU" Card?
A Thank You or Acknowledgement card should be sent to those who were in attendance for support during the services and anyone that has done something extra, including;
o People who have sent or brought flowers o Those who made memorial donations to a charity or helped your family financially (do not mention the amount of the contribution). The charity will notify you of donations made in your loved one's memory. o People who have been helpful in tangible ways (e.g. brought food, provided transportation, done baby-sitting, or assisted with a luncheon.) o The Pallbearers o Clergy presiding at the funeral
A simple card with a heartfelt message is sufficient to satisfy most funeral etiquette situations. A statement can be printed on the inside of the card to
those who were particularly helpful or generous during the funeral
preparations and throughout the service. Mentioning the specific act of
service or assistance is also a nice gesture in a "personalized
message" thank card.
WHAT DO YOU SAY IN A SYMPATHY "THANK YOU" CARD?
A simple 1 to 3 sentence saying "Thank You" is all that is needed. You can purchase sympathy "Thank You" cards from Funeral Homes that comes with a pre-printed message or you can request "Gracefully Prepared" blank note cards and have your own personal message added.
When choosing the Gracefully Prepared card selections you will have an option to request a "digital" copy of your "Thank You"cards to be emailed to your supporters that provided email addresses.
Here are some sample phrases to use: o Thank you for your sympathy and kindness... o Thank you for your support at this difficult time.... o We deeply appreciate your expression of sympathy o Thank you for your prayers and thoughts... o Thank you for the support and comfort you provided o Thank you for the beautiful floral arangement.... o We appreciate your thoughtful donation to _______in memory of _______ o We are grateful for friends like you at this time of sorrow o We appreciate having you with us at this difficult time in our lives
When Should Cards be Sent?
Funeral Homes "Thank You" card etiquette dictates that the cards should be sent out by two weeks after the services. While certain circumstances may prevent such a timely response, certainly any "Thank You" cards sent out within four weeks are still considered appropriate.